If your spouse went back to the affair the second time, it seemed to have much more power over them than in the beginning.By the time you broke your silence, things had evolved to an almost impossible situation.
Sounds simple, but for you to really grasp this concept you have to be willing to understand what role play in the problems your marriage is experiencing. This isn’t the time to get angry and start blaming. It’s time to take a personal inventory of your flaws.
If you want to save your marriage, you better be prepared to focus contributed to the breakup…for now. This can be a particularly painful process and you may need to see a counselor/coach to help you figure this out but don’t hesitate to do this. Since you have little control over your spouse’s behavior, your job is understand your own behavior and stop doing whatever is damaging the relationship.
My faith in God tells me through His power anything can be done.
My faith in people has been strengthened by experiencing God intervening in lives even when a person wanted God to leave him or her alone to do what they wanted to do.
They might even have heard the startling news that God Himself sent the lover and that He wants them to be together. The fact is that even in these situations a possibility exists that the marriage can be saved and, with time, made good again.
Or, they might have heard that your spouse no longer believes what they once believed, so the church folks may as well go bother someone who buys into their malarkey. That may sound Pollyannaish, but I’ve personally witnessed it repeatedly over the last sixteen years. Your spouse changed but you couldn’t quite explain the changes in a way that seemed to make sense to anyone else.You thought that you were imagining things, being insecure in thinking your spouse had someone else.I promise…there will be a time for this but it isn’t now. Any attempt you make to change him/her will be interpreted as “smothering”. What did they experience when you behaved the way you did? Talk to a counselor/coach who can help you get a better understanding of your actions and their consequences.This isn’t the time to stick your head in the sand and hope things will improve. Then you began to vacillate, worrying that you must be right but telling yourself that surely you aren’t.