When you call her on it she will probably admit that you aren’t a bad cook.She may even tell you she was in a bad mood and didn’t mean anything by it. The third in-law is a woman sometimes referred to as the monster-in-law.
If you have been struggling to try to improve your relationship with a difficult in-law you know how painful having to put up with an overbearing or controlling extended family member can be.
Although abusive in-laws can create terrible problems for adult children, those who control or manipulate in more subtle ways can have a very negative effect as well.
They have been modified slightly to work with controlling in-laws. In the following scenario, a mother-in-law is pretending to help her daughter-in-law but is really trying to get her to do things her way.
The daughter feels that what her mother-in-law is implying is that she is not a very good cook.
Let’s say she notices a small flaw in your cookies.
Insecure people often turn against weakness in others in an attempt to distance themselves from their own weakness.
However, she may just as easily have been in a foul mood and was simply taking it out on you.
When you use your sentence with the heat of the moment in-law you will simply be calling her on her rudeness.
When you use this sentence every time she slips, she will become more aware and learn to restrain herself from this type of behavior. The mother-in-law who insulted you in the heat of the moment probably has issues of her own that affect how she feels about you.
She may have insecurity and problems with self-esteem that leave her chronically irritated.
She will use the sentence from the Nicola Method, “When you said that it seemed like you thought…” and then add the words, “I wasn’t a very good cook,” to the end of the sentence like this: There are a few possible endings to this scenario.