The girl wants to be at the centre of her boyfriend’s universe.To achieve that she will struggle against her willingness to give over whatever she perceives he wants from her.They too can be craving attention from a woman, to fill a gap in their emotional life – but that is less common the case for men as for women.
The ultimate reason for dating is to find a spouse.Once you’ve found someone to marry and you get married, you no longer engage in dating.steady dating: exclusively dating one person for a period of time serial dating: moving through a series of one romantic relationship to another What attracts young men and women to dating are typically different things.Young women are often looking for the security of emotional support and that feeling of being cherished by one person – being someone’s “one and only”!And it can be all very confusing for a young man and woman committed to the Christian virtue of chastity!
In spite of their “best intentions” they can find themselves sliding down a slippery slope toward pre-marital sex. But it requires a great deal of self-discipline and maturity. But even when a teenager possesses great self-discipline and maturity, the question remains: what can he or she achieve through a dating relationship that he could not achieve through friendship?How many times can you fall in and out of being a different man’s “one and only” before you stop believing that you are worth loving and being truly cherished as one man’s “one and only true love” for life? By the time you are ready to marry and you find that someone whom God has called you to be with, what meaning in your life will all those past relationships have?How many men can you let into your heart as your “one and only” before you stop believing that you are truly capable of loving one man alone, unconditionally for life? Very little – apart from the regrets you might feel because you had given your heart, affection and perhaps physical intimacy to someone who is now not your husband.Dear Kim, Thank you for your excellent question and for your patience in waiting for my response!It is a relevant question, in a society that pushes dating at such a young age.Hormones, emotional needs and a desire to be adult-like work together shape how a young man and woman will view the relationships in their life.